Friday, October 26, 2012

How To Maintain A Successful Workout Plan


If you recently decided to shape up, then you've taken an important first step on the road to wellness. Unfortunately, every year many well-intended people tend to forget the fitness mantra long before their gym membership expires simply because most people do not realize that any change in their normal routine takes planning.
How to Create a Successful Fitness Plan?
Many people get over enthusiastic and spring right in to action by getting a Gym membership. They toil very hard every day trying to eliminate that unwanted belly bulge and get those desired 6 pack abs. Initial enthusiasm is so high that they manage to get some early results. But after that, things slowdown a bit and by the next month the zeal is lost and the weight is back!
The beginning of any fitness training program requires a lot of planning and dedication. Individuals not only should have a pragmatic view of their own personal fitness goals, but they should also consider the variables they may be faced with in achieving their objective for better health and wellness. Here are some tips to create your own Fitness Plan:
  • Set realistic goals
    Rome wasn't built in a day. The single most aspect that individuals neglect when creating a fitness plan is goals. Even if they manage to set their goals, most of them are unrealistic and are eventually not met. This leads to a drop in morale and to pacify this drop one eventually goes back to their previous unhealthy activities. Exercise and weight loss programs go absolutely nowhere if you don't plan for your success. Write your goals down and put it somewhere you will see it all the time to be reminded of your quest.
  • Be committed
    Fitness is like marriage. Just like commitment is the cornerstone to any successful marriage; the same principle applies to fitness. Being committed requires a lot of motivation. Fitness motivation is an essential part of a fitness program. It is the most important element in changing your body and your life. A great way to achieve the results you desire is to identify what keeps you motivated. These motivation tools can be weight oriented, or can pertain to inches lost, stamina gained, or anything else that you think is important.
  • Plan your daily routine
    Make a plan of your day-to-day activities. Elaborate everything that you will do everyday. Right from waking up in the morning to going to sleep at night, you should have detailed plan of your routine activities. Do not expect an instant love affair with fitness routine. Experts agree that it takes 21 days to create a habit and six months for it to actually become a part of your everyday life. Exercise might feel like torture in the beginning but will get easier as you get into better shape. As your body starts looking and feeling better, your attitude about exercise will improve.
  • Progress gradually
    Don't try to do much; you might end up getting nothing out of it. Your fitness plan should provide gradual and consistent weight loss of about 0.5 to 1 kg per week. You should not lose more than 1 kg per week to maintain good health while losing weight.
  • Eat healthy
    Choose a nutrition program that reduces calories without leaving out specific foods or food groups. Make sure you are eating food from all the food groups on the nutrition pyramid. Don't go for crash diet program because once the program is over you will be craving for food and would eventually get back to your binge habits.
  • Drink lots of fluids
    To keep your body functioning at maximum efficiency, you need fluid. Many people compromise their exercise and weight loss programs by never drinking enough water. Water helps to flush out toxins from your body and keep metabolism fired up.
  • Exercise
    The importance of a regular workout plan cannot be stressed enough. You should include 30 to 60 minutes of cardiovascular activity at least 5 days every week. If you don't have the time (or the desire) to go to the gym, do something creative. Salsa classes, belly dancing, adventure sports etc; the list is endless. Even walking or climbing stairs can make a difference.
  • Rest
    Rest is essential to allow our muscles to repair and grow and it gives you time to focus on your state of mind too. Rest is as important as exercise itself. One of the biggest mistakes that beginners make is that they do not give their muscles time to recover before working out again.
  • Always be ready to modify your Plan
    The best fitness plan are those that can be modified according to the requirement. As you keep learning new things from new people; try to incorporate them in your plan. Many different exercise and weight loss programs focus on different ideas and techniques. The best weight loss program might be a combination of two or three.
  • Continuous Assessment
    Regularly monitor your plans. If personal fitness goals are not met, disillusion and despair begin to set in, and the whole venture might seem worthless. You must forgive yourself in such a situation and ultimately revisit your commitment to the fitness training program. Take a long, hard look at all of the factors that hindered your previous program, learn from your mistakes and start all over again.
  • Maintenance plan
    Any weight loss plan should have a maintenance plan for after you've reached your goal weight, otherwise it isn't worth your time. Make sure you have a plan to maintain your healthy new weight after you have achieved your goals. Your plan should incorporate healthy eating and regular physical activity as a permanent part of your daily life.
Making your fitness training program fully attainable is the biggest and the hardest part of ensuring a good and healthy life. Without realistic personal fitness plan, it is highly doubtful that you will succeed. Once you start your fitness plan and get used to the changes, it will soon become second nature to live a healthy lifestyle.


Read more: http://www.lifemojo.com/lifestyle/how-to-create-a-successful-fitness-plan-741229#ixzz2ANAw7fOQ

The Economics Of Love


Tim* and I met at an economics class in university. Though we didn’t know it at the time, two things would bring us together by the end of the semester – our near-identical timetables and a mutual fascination with Adam Smith. For him, it was Smith the economist – author of Wealth of Nations and the father of modern economics. For me, it was the newspaper astrologist – author of the lesser known (but no less powerfully titled)Saturn, Fatal Attraction
CAPTION
Smith, the astrologer                                                   Smith, the economist 

Growing up, I looked forward to reading my weekly horoscopes the way old people would lust after their new TV guides. At the back of every Sunday paper was a colourful preview of my seven-day forecast. It always sounded so busy and hopeful (“Friends and family will need your counsel.” “Bold Mars clash with flirtatious Venus!”), making the comparative tedium of my actual week somehow more bearable.  
But on the Sunday before my first week of uni, Smith offered no hint that I was about to get into my first real relationship. Nor did he foreshadow that because of a new crush, I was going to – despite my morbid fear of numbers – start looking forward to the economics lectures.


Eventually, I realised that the otherAdam actually had much better advice when it comes to navigating the nuances of love. Here is what some of the most common relationship dilemmas might look like through the eyes of an economist:

ON BEING SINGLE

Scarcity:  
Also known as the “basic economic problem”, economists are forever trying to allocate limited resources to satisfy infinite wants and desires. But the same conundrum also extends to the dating economy. One economist thinks the odds of finding real love is no more than 1 in 280,000 in London (for himself, at least), while another thinks it’s about as likely as being kicked in the head by a horse. This could account for the booming market ofliterature advising bitches ladies to settle for Mr Good Enough – but does it mean you should you ‘settle’ for less?
Not according to Smith. In fact, by pursuing our self-interest/ Ryan Gosling (as opposed to settling for a ‘bad equilibrium’), Smith argues that we will be “indirectly promoting" the greater good. Bottom line? Let the market’s ‘invisible hand’ guide you.   

OPEN (CASKET) RELATIONSHIPS

Bad equilibrium: 
 Presumably the cause of “open casket” romances– which is to say, relationships that are healthy-looking apart from their being dead. A bad equilibrium is defined as “a strategy that all the players in the game can adopt and converge on, but it won't produce a desirable outcome for anyone.” According to Dan Ariely, author ofPredictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions, this can also apply to first dates where we automatically default to making boring small talks in order not to appear too eager or intrusive.

“It's easy to talk about our views on the weather or food,” writes Ariely, “But while that may guarantee that we don't fail on this date, it does nothing to get us closer to success, as it provides us little useful information on whether we are a long-term romantic match.”

JERK ADDICTION


Cognitive dissonance: 
Ever wondered why some (usually intelligent) people stay with men/ women who treat them like rubbish? Apparently, this may have something to do with cognitive dissonance – a psychological phenomenon that describes consumers who are keen to feel good about past decisions – even if it’s a likely mistake.
“There is considerable evidence in psychology that people like to view themselves as being smart, and in particular, as having made correct decisions in the past,” writes economists Larry Epstein and Igor Kopylov, “Thus they may change beliefs after taking an action and become more optimistic about its possible consequences, in order to feel better about having chosen it.”

It also goes some way to explain why ‘playing hard to get’ works on some people: to justify all the effort, they will rationalise it by deciding it’s because “they really like you”.

WHY NO ONE WANTS TO SAY 'I LOVE YOU' FIRST


Game theory
: Thanks to Russel Crowe, most of us are now well-versed in how game theory works, if only in a pick-up situation.  At its simplest form (i.e. Prisoner’s Dilemma), the theory helps you decide on the “best course of action following your opponent’s choice” – with one important caveat: it doesn’t necessarily yield the ‘best’ possible outcome, just the most logical. (Say, what now?)
CAPTION
So for example, in the case of whether or not to say ‘I love you’ in a new relationship, according to Nobel-prize winning economist John Nash, the dominant strategy (ie. one that leads to minimal loss no matter what the other person does) is to stay silent (lest one person confesses their love and gets rejected). Even though the “best possible outcome” is actually for both parties to take the plunge and say how they feel. 

HANGING OUT

The law of diminishing returns
: As Alain de Botton explains in Essays in Love, "Happiness with other people seems bounded by two kinds of excesses: suffocation and loneliness.” The law of diminishing returns states that the more you consume of a good, the less satisfaction you’ll derive from the next unit of consumption.  (Eg. the first slice of pizza will always taste better than the second, and so on. Even if you weren’t drunk) This can also apply to dud dates, or the amount of ‘couch time’ with your partner each week.  
CAPTION
LETTING GO

Sunk cost vs opportunity cost: 
When it comes to deciding whether to stay or go, economists say we shouldn’t be held back by ‘sunk costs’ – in other words, losses that have “already been incurred and cannot be recovered”.  One of the most common reasons for staying in a dysfunctional relationship is the fear of “losing everything you’ve invested” in it. But in doing that, argues Smith, we are missing out on the future opportunity of happiness.
After the first semester, Tim and I went on to share many more economics classes. By the end of uni, we’d been together for two and a half years which, up until that point, had been 83 per cent of my adult life. And because we socialised together, at least 90 per cent of our friends were mutual.  In other words, the ‘sunk costs’ were relatively substantial.
But at 21 and not having really dated anyone else, were we really ready to settle down? Our economics forefathers taught us no. So after some tearful discussions, we decided it was time to let each other go. It wasn’t easy to say goodbye – but Adam would’ve been proud.

p/s:(*) names have been changed

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

How To Ask A Girl Out


Stop Hanging Out With Women and Start Dating Them

by BRETT AND KATE MCKAY on JANUARY 16, 2008 · 
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Over the past few years, many social observers have noted that young adults are dating less. Instead, dating is being replaced by “hanging out” with members of the opposite sex. Dating and hanging out are two completely different things.
Hanging out consists of people getting together in groups and doing stuff together. It could be going to a club, a restaurant, or just staying home and playing Wii. The atmosphere is relaxed and relations among opposite sexes never rises above the level of friendship (or friendship with benefits). There is nothing wrong with hanging out, but it is not a replacement for dating.
Dating consists of pairing off with someone in a temporary commitment so you can get to know the person better and perhaps start a long term relationship with them.

Why the decline in dating?

There are probably lots of factors that have contributed to the decline of dating amongst young adults. Here are few possible ones:
1. Young adults don’t like to commit. It seems like people in my generation aren’t big on making commitments to people or to organizations. Generation Y is too busy trying to “find themselves” in order to commit to anybody or anything. Companies have complained about the turn over rate of Generation Y. Companies invest lots of money training new employees only to have them leave after two years so they can find a new job. This reluctance to commit has carried over to the interaction between the sexes. Young adults don’t want to be tied down to someone just in case they get an itch to go on a backpacking trip to Europe.
2. The internet has retarded Generation Y’s social skills. Instead of telling a person directly that they’re interested in them by asking them on a date, Generation Y sends Crush alerts on Facebook. While the internet has made connecting with people easier, it has also made us lazier at establishing meaningful relationships. If you’re over 18 and you’re still using Facebook applications to let someone know you’re interested in them, you need to be punched in the face.
3. Feminism. Before I receive the wrath of all the feminists telling me it’s a typical man thing to blame women for the decline in dating, I ask that you hear me out. I think feminism is great. It’s great that women can choose to have a career, be a stay-at-home mom, or do both.
But it does make things confusing for men. Navigating relations among the sexes is a bit more tricky today. Men have all these questions go through their head: Who asks? If I ask, will she think I’m too forward? Who pays for the date? Do we split the bill? All these uncertainties cause men to avoid dating altogether and opt for hanging out with women instead.
4. Men today are wussies. Men today aren’t very resilient. They don’t know how to handle rejection or failure, so they avoid rejection or failure by not asking women out on dates.

Why date?

A lot of men today don’t seem to believe it, but getting hitched to the right woman is a very desirable thing.
So while there is nothing wrong with hanging out, it’s not a replacement for dating. Dating is the pathway to finding your true love and eventually settling down and getting married. Marriage is a one on one relationship, so you need to start getting to know women on a one on one basis. You might be hanging out with her and your friends right now, but if you don’t take her on date, she’ll forever be just your friend. So, start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.

Resurrect Dating

So, you’re ready to start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.
1. She wants you to ask. Despite the rhetoric you hear about the liberated woman, women still appreciate it when a guy asks her out on a date. They like when men take the initiative. I’ve heard lots of successful young professional women lament the fact that men don’t ask them out. They’re beautiful, smart, and charming, but don’t have a man. Be a man and ask these women out.
2. Asking is easy. Asking a woman out on a date isn’t rocket science. When you ask, though, do it in person or over the phone. If you’re poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook, you lose any credibility as a man.
3. Keep dates simple. Dates don’t have to be huge, expensive affairs. Keep it simple. If you want to keep things informal, ask her out for lunch or coffee. If you want a more romantic date, invite her over to your place and make dinner for her. She’ll be impressed that you know how to cook. The whole point of dating is to get some one on one interaction with a person to find out if she is someone you’d like to start a long term relationship with. Simple and frequent dates will assist you in this.
4. Prepare for rejection. Face it. Not every woman you ask out is going to say yes. Prepare for that. It’s no big deal if she says no. Think about it. You’re no worse off getting rejected than you were before you asked. You didn’t have a date with her before, you don’t have a date with her now. Your situation has not changed.
5. Just do it, damn it. So what are you waiting for? Quit reading this post right now and pick up your cell phone. Call a woman and ask her on a date. Stop hanging out and start dating. Stop being scared of commitment. Commitment is liberating, not confining.

Saturday, August 4, 2012

One Night Stand


Sex on the beach: Why settle for the drink when you can have the real thing? Your chances of a one-night stand might increase this summer, according to a recent UK survey finding that 40 percent of women under 30 said they’ve done the deed during vacation.

This isn’t a huge surprise. Inhibitions drop when you escape business attire, Microsoft Excel, and your overbearing boss for a week. Still, I find it disconcerting that women are often judged for such encounters, and sometimes regret the decision as a result.

Consider a Durham University study in which 80 percent of men rated their feelings after a one-night stand positively, compared to only 54 percent of women. What’s more, many of the women reported feeling “used.” Not shocking when you think about it. After all, “walk of shame” usually refers to a woman.
But if both parties are consenting, what’s so shameful?

“It’s the lock and key thing,” says one of my guy friends.  “A woman who has casual sex is like a weak lock because she’ll open for anyone.” [Insert I’m-so-sick-of-this-analogy groan here.] “But a key [the man] that opens any lock is the master key.”

Translation: A woman is supposed to “stay strong” and resist temptation. And if she doesn’t? She’s flawed. Weak. (Can someone please demand a product recall on these completely inadequate locks?) Besides, should sex really be about breaking into something? (*Cough, slippery slope, cough.*)

Now, I know the majority of guys are respectful, but I’ve heard some variation of this “lock and key” analogy—even from friends, nice guys—way too many times. Not only is it a double standard, it’s stopping many of you from having truly amazing sex. Just imagine if a woman didn’t feel like she was “giving in,” doing something wrong, and actually started enjoying herself. Everyone would win.

The first step: Be respectful during your one-night stands—whether or not either of you wants a relationship. The more respectful men are, the more (and better) sex everyone will have. Here’s how.

While you’re hooking up
Be generous.
 No one really expects a one-night stand or first-time sex to be mind-blowing. You don’t need to be amazing—women know that there’s a lot of pressure on guys to perform—but you should try. It says that you care about her enjoyment, too . . . even if it’s only a one-time thing. 

After the act
Talk to her.
 I don’t mean dirty talk (unless that’s what you’re into). I’m talking about a person-to-person conversation afterward. (If you’re too tired immediately after, do it the next morning.) It doesn’t need to be “sweet nothings,” and you don’t need to ask about her hopes and dreams—just something that indicates she’s more than a means for your pleasure. Maybe even cuddle. (Men like it, too.) What not to do: Roll over afterward, then point to the door the next morning.
Think of it this way: You both shared something—whether there were emotions involved or not. Respect the moment (and her)—even if you have no intention of seeing each other again.

The next morning
Be a gentleman.
 You don’t necessarily need to make a gourmet breakfast and walk her home. But if it’s raining in the morning, lend her an umbrella. If she left her jacket at the bar, lend her a sweatshirt. You get the idea. Trust me, being polite isn’t going to make her want a relationship if she doesn’t want one in the first place.

Long-term
Return to normalcy.
 Let’s say you were friends—and you don’t want anything more or less. Behave exactly as you did before hooking up. If you Gchat her everyday at work, then Gchat her everyday at work. It’s only weird and awkward if someone makes it weird and awkward. Don’t let it be you.

You may have noticed that the foundation of some of this advice is simple consideration for another human being. (I mean, you’d probably lend an umbrella to an acquaintance if he didn’t have one, right?) See, a funny thing happens when you see the woman in your bed, not as weak lock, but as—wait for it—a woman in your bed. Respect follows without a second thought—as will better, uninhibited sex.


Reference: http://blogs.menshealth.com/mh-feminist/have-the-best-one-night-stand-of-your-life/2012/06/29/#ixzz22YGD62M7

Thursday, June 21, 2012

30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Fruit Of The Poisonous Tree Doctrine


The "fruit of the poisonous tree" doctrine is an offspring of the Exclusionary Rule. The exclusionary rule mandates that evidence obtained from an illegal arrest, unreasonable search, or coercive interrogation must be excluded from trial. Under the fruit of the poisonous tree doctrine, evidence is also excluded from trial if it was gained through evidence uncovered in an illegal arrest, unreasonable search, or coercive interrogation. Like the exclusionary rule, the fruit of the poisonous tree doctrine was established primarily to deter law enforcement from violating rights against unreasonable searches and seizures.

The name fruit of the poisonous tree is thus a metaphor: the poisonous tree is evidence seized in an illegal arrest, search, or interrogation by law enforcement. The fruit of this poisonous tree is evidence later discovered because of knowledge gained from the first illegal search, arrest, or interrogation. The poisonous tree and the fruit are both excluded from a criminal trial.

Assume that a police officer searches the automobile of a person stopped for a minor traffic violation. This violation is the only reason the officer conducts the search; nothing indicates that the driver is impaired by drugs or alcohol, and no other circumstances would lead a reasonable officer to believe that the car contains evidence of a crime. This is an unreasonable search under the Fourth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution.

Assume further that the officer finds a small amount of marijuana in the vehicle. The driver is subsequently charged with possession of a controlled substance and chooses to go to trial. The marijuana evidence culled from this search is excluded from trial under the exclusionary rule, and the criminal charges are dropped for lack of evidence.

Also suppose that before the original charges are dismissed, the police officers ask a magistrate or judge for a warrant to search the home of the driver. The only evidence used as a basis, or Probable Cause, for the warrant is the small amount of marijuana found in the vehicle search. The magistrate, unaware that the marijuana was uncovered in an illegal search, approves the warrant for the home search.

The officers search the driver's home and find a lawn mower stolen from a local park facility. Under the fruit of the poisonous tree doctrine, the lawn mower must be excluded from any trial on theft charges because the search of the house was based on evidence gathered in a previous illegal search.

The Supreme Court first hinted at the fruit of the poisonous tree doctrine in Silverthorne Lumber Co. v. United States, 251 U.S. 385, 40 S. Ct. 182, 64 L. Ed. 319 (1920). In Silverthorne, defendant Frederick W. Silverthorne was arrested on suspicion of federal violations in connection with his lumber business. Government agents then conducted a warrantless, illegal search of the Silver-thorne offices. Based on the evidence discovered in the search, the prosecution requested more documents, and the court ordered Silverthorne to produce the documents. Silverthorne refused and was jailed for Contempt of court.

On appeal, the Supreme Court reversed the contempt judgment. In its argument to the High Court, the government conceded that the search was illegal and that the prosecution was not entitled to keep the documents obtained in it. However, the government held that it was entitled to copy the documents and use knowledge gained from the documents for future prosecution. The Court rejected this argument. According to the Court, "[T]he essence of forbidding the acquisition of evidence in a certain way is that … it shall not be used at all." Silverthorne concerned only evidence gained in the first illegal search or seizure, but the wording of the opinion paved the way for the exclusion of evidence gained in sub-sequent searches and seizures.

The term fruit of the poisonous tree was first used in Nardone v. United States, 308 U.S. 338, 60 S. Ct. 266, 84 L. Ed. 307 (1939). In Nardone, Frank C. Nardone appealed his convictions for Smuggling and concealing alcohol and for conspiracy to do the same. In an earlier decision, the High Court had ruled that an interception of Nardone's telephone conversations by government agents violated the Communications Act of 1934 (47 U.S.C.A. § 605). The issue before the Court was whether the trial court erred in refusing to allow Nardone's lawyer to question the prosecution on whether, and in what way, it had used information obtained in the illegal wire tapping.
In reversing Nardone's convictions, the Court stated that once a defendant has established that evidence was illegally seized, the trial court "must give opportunity, however closely confined, to the accused to prove that a substantial portion of the case against him was a fruit of the poisonous tree." The Nardone opinion established that evidence obtained in violation of a statute was subject to exclusion if it was obtained in violation of a statutory right.

The fruit of the poisonous tree doctrine was first held applicable to Fourth Amendment violations in the landmark case Wong Sun v. United States, 371 U.S. 471, 83 S. Ct. 407, 9 L. Ed. 2d 441 (1963). The Court in Wong Sun also set forth the test for determining how closely derivative evidence must be related to illegally obtained evidence to warrant exclusion.

In Wong Sun, a number of federal narcotics agents had arrested Hom Way in San Francisco at 2:00 A.M. on June 4, 1959, on suspicion of narcotics activity. Although the agents had been watching Way for six weeks, they did not have a warrant for his arrest. Way was searched, and the agents found heroin in his possession. After his arrest, Way stated that he had bought an ounce of heroin the night before from Blackie Toy, the proprietor of a laundry on Leavenworth Street.

Though Way had never been an informant for the police, the agents cruised Leavenworth Street. At 6:00 A.M., they stopped at Oye's Laundry. The rest of the agents remained out of sight while Agent Alton Wong rang the bell. When James Wah Toy answered the door, Wong said he was there for laundry and dry cleaning. Toy answered that he did not open until 8:00 A.M. and started to close the door. Wong then identified himself as a federal narcotics agent. Toy slammed the door and began to run down the hallway, through the laundry, and to his bedroom, where his wife and child were sleeping. Again without a warrant, Wong and the other agents broke open the door, followed Toy, and arrested him. A search of the premises uncovered no illegal drugs.

While Toy was in handcuffs, one of the agents told him that Way had said Toy sold Way narcotics. Toy denied selling narcotics, but then said he knew someone who had. When asked who, Toy answered that he knew the man only as "Johnny." Toy told the officers that "Johnny" lived on Eleventh Avenue, and then he described the house. Toy also volunteered that "Johnny" kept about an ounce of heroin in his bedroom, and that he and "Johnny" had smoked some heroin the night before.

The agents left and located the house on Eleventh Avenue. Without a search or an arrest warrant, they entered the home, went to the bedroom, and found Johnny Yee. After a "discussion" with the agents, Yee surrendered a little less than one ounce of heroin.

The same morning, Yee and Toy were taken to the office of the Bureau of Narcotics. While in custody there, Yee stated that he had gotten the heroin about four days earlier from Toy and another person he knew as "Sea Dog." The agents then asked Toy about "Sea Dog," and Toy identified "Sea Dog" as Wong Sun. Some of the agents took Toy to Sun's neighborhood, where Toy pointed out Sun's house. The agents walked past Sun's wife and arrested Sun, who had been sleeping in his bedroom. A search of the premises turned up no illegal drugs.
Toy and Yee were arraigned in federal court on June 4, 1959, and Sun was arraigned the next day. All were released without bail. A few days later, Toy, Yee, and Sun were interrogated separately at the Narcotics Bureau by Agent William Wong. Sun and Toy made written statements but refused to sign them.

Sun and Toy were tried jointly on charges of transporting and concealing narcotics in violation of 21 U.S.C.A. § 174. Way did not testify at the trial. The government offered Yee as its principal witness, but Yee recanted his statement to Agent William Wong and invoked his Fifth Amendment right against Self-Incrimination. With only four items in evidence, Sun and Toy were convicted by the court in a bench trial. The Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit affirmed the convictions (Wong Sun, 288 F.2d 366 (9th Cir. 1961)). Sun and Toy appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court.

The Supreme Court accepted the case and reversed the convictions. The Court began its analysis by noting that the court of appeals had held that the arrests of both Sun and Toy were illegal. The question was whether the four items in evidence against Sun and Toy were admissible despite the illegality of the arrests. The four pieces of evidence were the oral statements made by Toy in his bedroom at the time of his arrest, the heroin surrendered to the agents by Yee, Toy's unsigned statement to Agent William Wong, and Sun's unsigned statement to Agent William Wong.

The government submitted several theories to support the proposition that the statements made by Toy in his bedroom were properly admitted at trial. The Court rejected all the arguments. According to the Court, the arrest was illegal because the agents had no evidence supporting it other than the word of Way, an arrestee who had never been an informer for law enforcement. The officers did not even know whether Toy was the person they were looking for. Furthermore, Toy's flight did not give the officers probable cause to arrest Toy: Agent Alton Wong had first posed as a customer, and this made Toy's flight ambiguous and not necessarily the product of a guilty mind. Thus, under the exclusionary rule, the oral statements made by Toy in his bedroom should not have been allowed at trial.

The Court then turned to the actual drug evidence seized from Yee. The Court, in deference to Nardone, stated, "We need not hold that all evidence is 'fruit of the poisonous tree.'" Instead, the question in such a situation was "'whether, granting establishment of the primary illegality, the evidence … has been come at by exploitation of that illegality or instead by means sufficiently distinguishable to be purged of the primary taint.'"

According to the Court, the narcotics in Wong Sun were indeed "come at" by use of Toy's statements. Toy's statements were, in fact, the only evidence used to justify entrance to Yee's bedroom. Since the statements by Toy were inadmissible, the narcotics in Yee's possession were also inadmissible, as fruit of the poisonous tree. The Court went on to hold that Sun's written statements about Toy should also have been excluded as Hearsay, and the Court ultimately overturned Toy's conviction.

The Court did not reverse Sun's conviction. The heroin in Yee's possession was admissible at trial, as was Sun's own statement. According to the Court, "The exclusion of narcotics as to Toy was required solely by their tainted relationship to information unlawfully obtained from Toy, and not by any official impropriety connected with their surrender by Yee." The Court did, however, grant Sun a new trial, because it was unable to conclude that Toy's statements, erroneously admitted at trial as evidence against Sun, had not affected the verdict. The Court advised that on remand and in similar cases, "particular care ought to be taken … when the crucial element of the accused's possession is proved solely by his own admissions."

In determining whether evidence is fruit of a poisonous tree, the trial court judge must examine all the facts surrounding the initial seizure of evidence and the subsequent gathering of evidence. This determination is usually made by the judge in a suppression hearing held before trial. In this hearing, the judge must first determine that an illegal search or seizure occurred and then decide whether the evidence was obtained as a result of the illegal search or seizure.

The Supreme Court found such a causal connection lacking in United States v. Ceccolini, 435 U.S. 268, 98 S. Ct. 1054, 55 L. Ed. 2d 268 (1978). In Ceccolini, Ralph Ceccolini was found guilty of perjury by a district court in New York. However, the court set aside the verdict after it threw out testimony by Lois Hennessey against Ceccolini. According to the district court, Hennessey's testimony was tied to an illegal search conducted a year earlier. The government appealed to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit. The appeals court affirmed, and the government appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court.

According to the High Court, the exclusion of Hennessey's testimony was an error because sufficient time had elapsed to separate the illegal search from the testimony. Furthermore, Hennessey's testimony was not coerced by law enforcement officials as a result of the illegal search. An officer had questioned Hennessey four months after the search without specifically referring to the illegal search, and Hennessey volunteered the incriminating evidence against Ceccolini. The Court reversed, reasoning that the exclusion of testimony such as Hennessey's would not have a deterrent effect on misconduct by law enforcement officers.

Further readings

Fauver, Deborah. 2003. "Evidence Not Suppressed Despite Failure to Give Miranda Warning." Daily Record (St. Louis, Mo./St. Louis Countian) (October 14).
Hurley, Lawrence. 2003. "Reversal Leaves Federal Case Intact, Prosecutor Says." Daily Record (Baltimore, Md.) (June 2).
McCrackin, Sidney M., 1985."New York v. Quarles: The Public Safety Exception to Miranda." Tulane Law Review 59 (March).

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

How To Treat People


1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady"

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.


2. Second Important Lesson - "Pickup In The Rain"


One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home.

A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.


3. Third Important Lesson - "Remember Those Who Serve"

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "50¢," replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "35¢!" she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.

When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.


4. Fourth Important Lesson - "The Obstacles In Our Path"


In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."


5. Fifth Important Lesson - "Giving When It Counts"

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."

As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?".

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Installing Love


Installing Love 

Tech Support:   Yes, how can I help you?

Customer:         Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support:   Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer:          Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready- What do I do first?
Tech Support:   The first step is to open y our Heart.   Have you located   your Heart?

Customer:          Yes, but there are several other programs running now.
  Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support:   What programs are running ?

Customer:          Let's see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support:  No problem. Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system.   It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer  disrupt other programs.    Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment.   Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed.   Can you turn those off?

Customer:         I don't know how to turn them off.   Can you tell me how?
  
Tech Support:
 With pleasure.  Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness.  Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer:       Okay, done!  Love has started installing itself.   Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program.    You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.  
Customer:       Oops! I have an error message already.   It says, ' Error -  Program not run on external components' What should I do?
  
Tech Support: 
  Don't worry.   It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart.
In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer:          So, what should I do?
  
Tech Support:   Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files:  Forgive-Self; Realize your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer:         Okay, done.
  
Tech Support:   Now, copy them to the 'My Heart' directory.  The system will   overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming.   Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back

Customer:          Got it. Hey!  My heart is filling up with new files.   Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support:   Sometimes.  For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time.   So Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware.  Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet.   They will in turn share it with others and return some cool  modules back to you.

Customer:          Thank you, God.

God/Tech Support: You're Welcome, Anytime. 

  

Long Live The Dragon

MY Christian friend who was here on a visit recently really wanted to buy traditional Chinese suits to take home as souvenirs. We took him to the famous Silk Street tourist shopping mall where he browsed from stall to stall but could not find anything that appealed to him.
“It’s not the price,” he explained. “It looks like every one of them has the dragon motif.”
Obviously, he did not want to have anything to do with the dragon. To the Chinese, the dragon is the national symbol, a mythical creature, benign, strong, righteous and protective, and it has influenced China’s culture and that of its neighbouring countries like Japan, Korea and Vietnam for thousands of years.
So, a traditional Chinese suit is not culturally correct without the dragon motif and many Westerners like it as it is. They like to have it on their T-shirts, their kungfu outfits and even have it fashionably tattooed on their bodies.

On the other hand, there are those, some Christians among them, who are not quite comfortable with the mythical creature. To them, the dragon is symbolic of evil and is offensive. As such, they don’t want to have anything to do with it.
As China continues to interact with the West and come under increasing Western influence, the dragon, like other things traditionally Chinese, is in a bit of trouble.
A storm is brewing on the Net over an out-of-the-box suggestion that it should be dethroned and replaced as the national symbol of China.
It all started with a proposal by the deputy president of the Shanghai Public Relations Association, Prof Wu Youfu, who feels that the iconic dragon may no longer be suitable as a national symbol of modern China.
According to a media report, Prof Wu argued that the dragon is seen in Western culture as a symbol of “arbitrariness and offensiveness” and, as such, does not fit the image of a rising China that’s a peaceful and harmonious nation.
Noting that the bias from Westerners who know little about China’s culture may cause a negative impact on the country, the report says that Prof Wu and his team are now working on a new symbol based on positive Chinese characteristics.
Although Prof Wu subsequently explained that the report was not quite correct, the controversy he sparked off is raging on nevertheless, as the suggestion has touched a raw nerve in the Chinese who are proud of their culture.
They feel so strongly about keeping the dragon as their national symbol regardless of the fact that it is not enshrined in the Constitution as a national symbol.
The Chinese website sina.com did a survey and found that 90% of 100,000 respondents wanted to keep the dragon as the Chinese icon.
However, one expert feels that the Chinese word long should be used instead of the English word “dragon” to avoid any negative connotation.
Pang Jin, director of the China Research Centre on Dragon and Phoenix Culture, explained that the dragon of the West and China’s are different.
He said the dragon in Western countries represents evil and is usually seen as a symbol of arbitrariness and offensiveness.
“However, the dragon in China is a supernatural animal that is always good without aggression. What is more, the dragon in Western culture is low in rank but in China it is a spiritual and cultural symbol representing prosperity and good luck,” he was quoted as saying.
Visually, the Chinese dragon is a combination of several animal parts. It has the horns of a deer, the head of a crocodile with bulging eyeballs, flared nostrils sprouting two lengths of hair and a goatee. It has the body of a snake and four legs with the claws of an eagle.
According to Chinese mythology, the dragon, which controls the weather and thus the fortune of the ancient agricultural society, always moves among the clouds.
It has permeated Chinese culture for thousands of years to the extent that it was adopted as the royal emblem of every Chinese dynasty. Accordingly, Chinese emperors sat on a dragon throne, wore a dragon robe, and slept on a dragon bed.
He lived and worked in royal palaces decorated with dragon motifs and was even buried in royal mausoleums decorated with similar motifs.
The dragon is also featured in tens of thousands of art works in various shapes and sizes and in different postures and appears in books, poems and in ancient architecture.
Such is the attraction of this mythical creature that many Chinese today still pride themselves as Long Di Chuan Ren or “Inheritors of the dragon (culture)” even though the creature is non-existent.
Prof Guan Shijie of Peking University was quoted as saying that to some extent the misconception of the Chinese dragon is due to faulty translation.
Thus, he suggested that the Chinese word long be used for the Chinese mascot to distinguish it from the baddie dragon of the West.
On the other hand, Prof Yu Guomin of Renmin University believes that a PR campaign is needed to spruce up the image of the Chinese dragon.
“If the ogre Shrek can become famous and loveable in America, I think the Chinese dragon can learn from it too,” he mused.