"Gambling refers to the betting of money on an event with an uncertain outcome, with intent of winning additional money. The decision to gamble a certain amount of money is based on three parameters namely; how much to bet, the predictability of the event and the conditions agreed upon between the gamblers. The skill of a gambler lies in performing the calculation between the three parameters and making a decision about what amount should be put on stake and how much to expect in return."

The effects:
1) Lead the gamblers towards crime. The addiction gets on to them to such an extent that they fail in thinking wisely before acting due to which they might land up in worse situations. They may take wrong decisions in life. People who fall prey to gambling tend to drift away from their families and waste money on other bad practices. The treatment of such addicts again needs money. There is a lot of expenditure on curing the addicted gamblers of society.

2) When gamblers indulge into excessive gambling activities, they tend to spend time and money at the expense of their jobs and time with family and friends. They tend to stay away from their near ones, resulting in distrust between them and their loved ones. Gambling at the cost of one's job results in a decline in the quality of one's professional life. Addiction to gambling is sure to hamper one's career.

Why people indulge in gambling though they know the fact that they are splurging their money and valuables?
People are seen taking to gambling as a way to run away for their problems, stress, anger and loneliness. Gamblers often exhibit mood swings and a strangely secretive behavior. They run behind gambling without the thought that gambling is actually inviting more problems in their life. Their unquenchable thirst of profits makes them continue wanting more. They start borrowing money and taking secret loans to bet money. In spite of the losses they face, they continue betting. Their addiction to gambling can leave them in bankruptcy.

It is in my believe that money could only be earned with a whole load of efforts, commitment and hardwork. It was instill in me perhaps by my parents that money do not come easily, and only through hardship that the money you earned would be appreciated by you, yourself. If someone came to tell you that gambling required a whole lot of effort and commitment and hardwork, what say you? you know with the analysis you made based on your mathematical knowledge, your physic knowledge and the 'experience' altogether.

Lets take an example of the process of making a pot, claypot or "tembikar"(Malay language). In the process of making that particular pot, it(the pot) has endured a tremendous amount of heat so that it could become harden and beautifully carved. What I'm trying to imply here is that in order for a human being to learn, this sort of problems or hardships he/she endured is simply natural or basic and simply inescapable. This leads me to be reminded of this phrase quoted by the grandfather in that movie "the ultimate gift" where he said that a person will only begin to live until they lost everything, it is like the perfect way to start and that he refered that as the 'gift' of problems. It is never too late to be incurred by problems no matter how old a person is and that is a mere fact of life where problems will smack us down on our face and how we solve will be up to us, we can sit down and whine about the problems or we can take steps to get over it. It is up to you but who knows behind those problems lies this "reward" for your perseverance. You just have to accept the challenges so you may feel the exhilaration of victory.

Maybe it is God's will to make things so hard for many of us.....

Maybe this is a part of our learning process, every process gets tougher before it gets easier, this makes learning a gift even if pain is our teacher.......

Maybe it is a series of gift that would lead us to the 'ultimate gift' who knows......

Sometimes a friend has gotta to be cruel to be kind....
And one gotta agree with this statement that a person would not be rich without friendship and I treasure friendship. Good Night

Toxic Friends

The term above may sound a little to unfamiliar to a lot of people but for me that would be how I would refer to a minority friends of mine who hangs out with me quite often. These are the people who possessed negative influence towards a person's life whether it is you or another friend of yours who happen to be in that circle of people. In general, most guys will not seek the company of this sort of people but when they initiate a meet up, you tend to meet up as to accomodate. It is easy to say but hard to do as in getting rid of them completely from your life.

First and foremost, I find that this people has the capability to shape your attitude especially if you spend a lot of time with them. Think about it, your opinions towards the environment, social life and basically everything in life. In other words the way you invest your time in people would shape the man you become, that is why it is important for a person expand his horizon by travelling to new places and see new things. For example, if you spend time listening to people constantly complaining about his job, his screwed up love life, his fucked up family and all. Initially this will rub off on you and one question do they leave you having so charged up of your life and that you are now having the view towards your objective in life.. Hell NO right? logic explains it all. They will juice up that negative energy and eventually they will have that vibe instill in you and teaches you to look at life as a victim of it. That is just bad attitude I would say.

Next, this type of company would derail you from your goal you have planned. Ever had this experience when you planned to read this book, clean your home, save the cat, wash the car, spend more time with your loved ones, expand your business, contribute constructive opinions towards saving the middle eastern etc.. Then that phone of yours ring telling you to go out to hang out some place immediately. The next thing you know, you are waking up early in the morning tired after that console you gave to him and the worst part is all that activities you planned to do on that night are delayed obviously. What I'm trying to explain here is that you gotta take up that courage to actually say NO to certain activities that might ruined your plan or agenda for the day. Logically if people constantly pull you away from your plan, consequently this will make you unbalanced in certain ways if you are not achieving your personal goal. Lets say taking the pass for the night causes them to tease you or make fun of your other goals instead of supporting them, what is the point actually of going out with them? Good friends would want you to succeed though they may be busting your balls left and right with those silly things you did last time as long the intention is good. You simply gotta use that inner self of yours to feel that intention out, it is no technique to it. Toxic friends on the other hand are afraid of seeing you succeed because they are not succeeding in theirs. If your friends aren't respectful of your dreams and ambitions, they won't respect the time you devote to those pursuits, and they'll try and get you to come to do shitz or listen to them whine.

There is a saying that you would earn a quite similar amount of salary with that group of friends you are spending time with. So, what is the advice her, hang out with people with rich people. Not all perhaps. Success in business is related to drive, hard work, persistence, and a hundred other qualities. High earners bring value to their companies and are rewarded for it. Their outer reality reflects their inner reality. Thus, hang out around people who give value to their companies. They're much more likely to give value to their friends as well. It is just my mere opinion but it is all up to you on how you evaluate a person. Some rich brats who inherited their father's business could not be ALL screwed up.. =/ Something to ponder about huh.. Well I talked to quite a number of them, some maybe arrogant and boastful so just ignore those bastards I would say. They are of no benefit.

OK lets say if those mentioned above have not influenced you in a slightest way, how about this, by accepting the company of toxic people you are not only hurting yourself but you are also hurting them. Ouch it may sound, but it is true ; by being available to hang out and hear all of your friends’ problems, you are allowing them to continue in their negativity. If they have a sympathetic ear and a cold beer on hand to deal with their sorrow, they're going to continue using negativity as a path through life. Problems are meant to challenge us, to make us grow by rising to the occasion. It's not always easy, but the true path around a problem is through it: stepping up, manning up and solving what needs to be solved. By always being sympathetic when your friends complain, you're allowing them to be beat by the problems in their lives. It's a cruel world out there which only the strongest survive; battle of the foetus.

If anyone who happened to flip through this page, perhaps you should start sorting out your friends. The toxic and non-toxic friends. Nevertheless, do not get confused with my point here. Everyone has ups and down, or bad times of the year, or their life. That is the time where your true friend will need a shoulder to cry on, somebody to listen or even some real help. None of that makes your friend a negative person. You are wise enough to distinguish the person who is having a bad day, bad month or bad year versus those who chose the path to be in dump and do not take the initiative to make a change to themselves. Friendship is one of the very best parts of life. And don't tolerate the people who use you as a crutch -- you'll end up smelling like an armpit.